From Anger Management To Deep Peace

"All healing is essentially the release from fear."

A Course In Miracles

When we experience anger it is because we have reached a degree of perceived separation that is so 'real' that we feel utterly alone. In that state of apparent aloneness we are left with what seems to be no choice but to lash out, blame others and defend our existence.

But you are never alone and you are never separate and the path to deep peace is easily within reach if you allow it.

How You Got To Anger

It didn't start with the anger that you feel. It began with small steps away from the state of wholeness. As a child you inherently knew wholeness and your connection to all that is. Consider a small infant and their perception of the world they have entered into. They don't even recognize that they are separate from their mother, their father, their dog or the bed in which they lay at night. All of it is an expression of their creator in ever unfolding form and they are a part of and one with it.

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Something happens however, and bit by bit that infant grows into a toddler and then a small child and so on. And as they grow, they increasingly take on this idea that they are separate. And in that new idea of separateness they learn that the world around them can hurt them. It is hurt that is the first assault on their state of deep peace and joy. Hurting their knee eventually evolves into hurting their feelings when someone says something which denies their wholeness. This might be mom or dad berating them for some behavior or it might be a friend at school pointing out how they are different.

From Hurt Emerges Fear

We are resilient though and can mostly bounce back from the little hurts. Yet those hurts will start to accumulate more and more over time and they can quickly turn into fear. Fear is the next step away from wholeness and into the idea of separation. Fear comes about due to the expectation of being hurt. It has happened so many times before, therefore it is bound to happen again. In certain situations or areas in our lives we have been hurt so many times or so severely that we generate fear in those areas. If you are repeatedly or intensely hurt by the opposite sex then you will start to become fearful in some sense of interacting with the opposite sex. Or if you are repeatedly startled by a loud verbally abusive parent then you will eventually become fearful of not only that parent but possibly loud noises, or other men (if it was your father).

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Fear Becomes Anger

​Fear then will continue to be present in some area or areas of your life until you realize that in this moment now you are always safe. This realization does not occur for most and so the fear remains. And being in a state of fear for months, years or decades eventually evolves into anger. Anger emerges because you feel so hurt and fearful that you need to protect yourself to survive. In many cases though, the anger doesn't emerge outwardly and instead is turned on oneself because perhaps you were taught that being angry was not appropriate or you fear the consequences of showing anger.

This is just as dangerous as outwardly expressed anger because you will literally start to break down your physical body by holding onto anger. This internalized anger will show up as disease in the body or possibly as the body attacking itself as is the case with autoimmunity. Many people do not realize that they are holding on to anger but may have a constant state of uneasiness or anxiousness because they are unwilling to feel that anger.

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Finding Peace With Hypnotherapy

Freedom from your anger comes by following the path back to your wholeness and to realizing you are not separate. This may present a challenge when your conscious mind is convinced that you are separate and you also have subconscious parts that step up to point out how others are out to get you. Follow along with me and I'll share how hypnotherapy can help you to let go of anger and step into deep peace.

​In the form of hypnotherapy that I practice you willingly set your conscious mind to the side so that the deeper causes of your anger can be accessed, brought to light and then shifted into wholeness and peace. As with any hypnotherapy session we begin, in a very conscious way, to uncover the emotions that you are experiencing and perhaps in what situations or circumstances you are experiencing anger. In this process other synonyms may come up for anger such as irritated, frustrated, furious, or rage-filled. 

Once we have the emotions and the context for your anger, we then uncover the hidden beliefs about yourself in relation to the issue. So you may discover that beneath the irritation is a belief that you are unsafe, or under the emotion of rage is a belief that you are unloved. This is unique to you and your vocabulary of your experience but will lay the groundwork for accessing the initiating memories, traumas or unmet needs that created the thoughts that created the hurt and then the fear and finally the anger. 

​Typically the first session involves use of a modified eye movement therapy technique to shift things right in the moment before doing the hypnotic programming. I then guide you into a light to medium hypnotic state and provide positive suggestions to your subconscious mind with new beliefs and emotions about yourself and about the context causing the anger. You then will have a recording of that guided hypnotic session which you will listen to daily and nightly to start to reprogram those beliefs and emotions and to elevate your state to a positive one.

The subsequent sessions will involve techniques in a deeper state of hypnosis including childhood regression, breath-work, parts work, holographic memory resolution, core transformation and others to support you in a major shift in your state towards a core state of peace, joy, ease and wholeness. Over the course of 3-5 sessions together, we can dramatically change the way you feel about yourself, others, the world and everyone in it. You will experience positive states that perhaps you haven't felt since you were a child and anger will no longer be something that you need to manage but rather a distant memory from a time when you were lost, but now are found.

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