Self sabotage is a term that is regularly used in the self-help and psychology fields that refers to a person creating problems in their daily life which interferes with their long-term goals and well-being. It is really an entire niche within these fields that has spawned numerous programs designed to help people overcome self sabotage. And undoubtedly these programs may be effective to varying degrees. In fact I am not writing this to impugn those people or their programs.
The reason that I believe that it is a myth is because it is a conflation of terms and an overgeneralization of the word self. The dictionary definition of the word self is a person's essential being that distinguishes them from others. Notice the words, essential being. I believe that when we use the word self it should hold power and that it should imply our innate wholeness. Your true Self is whole and complete and nothing can change that.
False, Evidence, Appearing Real. (F.E.A.R.)
If you are suffering from a fear then you know that while the above statement may be true, your body has very real physiological responses to whatever it is that creates a fear for you. This is because your body doesn't actually recognize the difference between something that is real or imagined. This is a blessing and a curse because while it means that your fear may feel as real as the ground beneath your feet, it also means that if you create something different in your mind, you can overcome that fear.
This capacity of the mind is where hypnosis and hypnotherapy can help eliminate fears completely. For some overcoming a fear can be as simple as using an NLP technique. Below are 2 parts of a tried and true NLP technique and 1 technique that I created which can be a great addition after completing the other two techniques:
It is estimated that in the U.S., 35% of Americans get less than the recommended 7 hours of sleep each night. Sleep is without a doubt one of the most influential factors on your physical and mental health. Lack of quality or adequate sleep will result in suppressed immune function, neuro-inflammation, poor fat loss and metabolic function and much more.
Statistics About Sleep
Here are some more statistics about sleep issues in the United States, each of which can be addressed in some manner with hypnosis and hypnotherapy:
NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is a process and practice of understanding how people organize the way that they behave, think, feel and speak to achieve a given result. When you can understand these things about someone who has been successful at something, you can then duplicate that success. This practice cab be applied to weight loss with tremendous results.
If you step back for a moment you'll notice that there is an entire industry of fit and lean folks trying to sell you their solutions but too often those solutions are from an external source. Things like fitness equipment, diet plans, workout plans or books on the science of weight loss. Have you ever wondered why this industry still exists and continues to grow? The obvious answer as I'm sure you have concluded is that their solutions are not working...at least not permanently. And so people continue to look for the next thing outside of themselves to help them lose weight.
Why is it that a multi-billion dollar industry can't seem to solve the overweight and obesity problem? The reason is that these are behavioral issues before they are food issues or before they are exercise issues. With all of the information available online, everyone knows that McDonald's is not healthy and that cereals and cakes and cookies are not going to help you lose weight but millions of people still make the choice to eat those foods, to overeat or choose not to exercise.
You can leap far beyond those millions of people who will continue to fail simply by shifting to a different perspective about how to lose weight and keep it off.
Trauma is a tricky word to throw around. This is because trauma can come in so many forms and as is the case with so many things, unique to the individual. Some people who had what most would consider to be a traumatic childhood or who have gone through what most would consider a traumatic event even in their adult life, seem to, at least outwardly, come out completely unscathed.
While others were overwhelmed and had their lives derailed by what might seem like insignificant events. It is the persons' response to the trauma that matters as much or more than the trauma. It is also the relationships that are involved in the trauma that matter. When we are overwhelmed or traumatized we have needs that are not being met at that specific point in time. Whether it be an unmet need of safety, belonging, acceptance or whatever fundamental needs is not being met, it is in that unmet need and in that relationship that the path to true personal healing lays.
"I should definitely tell my husband how I feel..."
"But really, it's my own fault for being this way..."
"Except, he just doesn't seem to understand what I need..."
"Maybe if I tried harder it would change things..."
"Honestly things will probably never change, besides think of how difficult this change will be..."
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.
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Disclaimer: Hypnosis is a partnership between the client and the facilitator to create change in both the conscious and subconscious mind. I am a certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, not a Licensed Medical Doctor or Mental Health Professional. As such, hypnotherapy services performed are non-therapeutic and not intended to take the place of professional counseling, medical, or psychological care and should not be used as a substitute for diagnosis or treatment of any condition. I do not work on pain or diagnosed mental or physical conditions without the referral from a licensed practitioner of the healing arts per North Carolina State Statutes. If you are under the care of a medical professional for any condition for which you are seeking hypnosis support, please obtain a signed, written referral from your provider prior to engaging me and moving forward with related sessions.
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